Let me say upfront that I do not believe cheaters can blame anyone but themselves for their actions. Ultimately, they are the ones who put their penis or vagina in extracurricular situations. He didn’t trip while he was going pee and have his wank land in some h00r’s vag. There was no dick creeping up out of a toilet seat to take her vag by surprise. If there was a problem with getting their needs met in the marriage, they should have addressed that with their partner/spouse. If your marriage is beyond all repair, leave. Get out. Go. Bemotherfuckinggone. Cheating shouldn’t be an option.
I do have to wonder, though, how many people are actually cheated on by a partner who is simply a dirty, nasty, cheating douchebag v. a partner who is feeling lonely and neglected and unloved? Which still doesn’t excuse the cheating, of course. Cheating shouldn’t be an option. (This will be a goddamn refrain for this post.) I guess what I’m wondering is if there’s something a spouse can do to prevent their partner cheating, or is it all luck of the draw?
Bill is the first person I’ve been with who hasn’t cheated on me. My perspective on this is skewed since I’d say that my previous partners are simply cheaters. They cheated before me. They cheated after me. Was I to blame? Possibly. I’ve examined those relationships, and to be honest, they were fucked up aside from the cheating. They weren’t healthy relationships, infidelity or no. So it’s kind of hard to say, “I could have done X, Y or Z to prevent this.”
With Bill, I don’t think he’s the type to cheat. He’d simply leave if he found something better. (Which, babe? NOTHING out there is better than what you’ve got at home. JSYK.) So I don’t know if our marriage is stable and secure because we both work at it or if it’s because both of us are, by nature, faithful motherfuckers.
What are y’all’s thoughts?
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