We’ve been very busy doing nothing the past few days. Well, sort of. I’ve been reading and re-reading “Positive Discipline” by Jane Nelsen, Ed.D and wondering why this isn’t required reading for anyone majoring in education or working in the field of education. I really believe it’s a must-read for parents, too. Every time I read this book, I get something new out of it.
I’m not going to rehash the book here. If you’re interested, it’s widely available. I ordered my copy from Amazon, as a matter of fact. But go get it. Read it. Re-read it. Even if you don’t have kids yet…heck, especially if you don’t have kids yet. This book has really changed my thinking about my parenting approach. I’ve learned some of the stuff I’m doing already is good; some is not so good. But I’m learning, and I swear, the change in our household is remarkable already.
Also? I’m the laziest parent ever. No, really. Every parenting decision I make comes down to “Is this easy for me but still good for my kids?” Take breastfeeding, for example. Oh, sure, I know “breast is best”, but my real reason for nursing? I’m too lazy to deal with formula and bottles and all that. At 2 am, I can whip out a boob and feed Tricia without ever really waking all the way up.
At any rate, my point is that if I’m endorsing this method, it can’t be terribly difficult. It’s a lot of work upfront, especially if your kids are older, but long-term? I’ll be able to really enjoy my children, instead of spending my time worrying that I’m failing them in some way or trying to figure out how to “make” them do what they need to do. My kids will be self-reliant and self-motivated. This book really does help to create a home with a family that is respectful (even the parents!) and loving.
I’m also hoping that the kids won’t need too much therapy, but I fear that might be wildly optimistic on my part.
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